Things are changing..

Well me and my youngest are getting along a lot better, "what happened to make this so? you might ask" well basically I finally had reached my breaking point and told her that she either treated me better and with a respect that she could pack her stuff, and leave her phone(which is the best bargaining tool there is!) and have someone come get her, you get to a point where enough is enough, and even though it was breaking my heart, I just really could not take it anymore! well I do believe that kinda shook her up, she has been real respectful, and we have actually been having a good time together, so I guess it just took me finally saying no more, and letting her see that yes she could push me over the edge and that she had nowhere to go..

If someone told me ten years ago that....

If someone told me ten years ago that me and my youngest daughter would have the strained and distant relationship that we have now, I would have told them they was crazy! you see me and my kids have all been close, but Morgan was a mommies girl, I mean my oldest was too, but when Morgan was getting older, Jordan started having her older friends and was more into boys lol the way it should be! but Morgan didn't want me out of her sight, we would do everything together, when I got divorced when she was ten, we would get Anime (she loved that!) and we would make like a pallet on the floor on weekends and watch Anime all weekend, then all of sudden when she turned like 15 she started treating me differently, I mean I know people say all kids go thru this phase where they act like they cant stand their parents, but this has been different and I cant really explain how, and for the last three years it has slowly eroded, to the point of where today I actually came to terms with the fact that the relationship we had is gone, and its never going to be like it was, she's a different person, so instead of trying so hard, and being hurt time and time again, Im giving up. I mean I love her with all my heart, and I would do anything for her, but im just not going to try so hard anymore, im not going to wonder what I can do to make her happy, what I can do so that she wont talk like she can barely tolerate to talk with me, Im just going to go on with my day and just be happy with the relationship that I do have with her. I do hope one day she will tell me what I did to make her change how she felt about me, and trust me I have gone thru things in my mind to try and figure it out, but I honestly cant think of anything. but anyway, I do trust in the LOrd, and I have asked that he restore my relationship with Morgan, and hopefully it will happen

Going home again..

I have come to visit my parents and decided to go through old family photos, wow what a treasure trove of family history!! its amazing my family has literally lived all around the war, been in many wars, moonshiners, millionaires, actors, stowaways and much more, I have loved this time with my parents infact I called my daughter and asked if she would watch my dog for one more day so I could stay another day with them! I think its important to spend time with your parents if your blessed to still have them in your life..It will mean more to you as you get older, trust me..

This whole dating thing sucks!!

Ok I have gotten on a couple of dating sites..major waste of time..same people on every sight, I don't care if its a Christian or farmers only sight, its the same freaking people!! My daughters say Im too picky, but I don't want to settle, if he cant make my heart beat a little faster when I see him...then no deal!! and its not like it was when I was younger, I could go to the mall and have ten calls by the time I got home from guys I had given my number to, lol but now a days men act like they are scared to death to approach a woman! and I'm sorry but im old school I am not going to make the first move. So my daughters said you need to make the first move, so I was like ok Ill give it a shot, so I contacted someone on facebook that I was interested in, he was smart, and musical, things I do look for, so I thought what the heck Ill give it a shot, well that was a freaking waste of time, he acted like he didn't have the time of day for me, even though he wasn't by any standards gods gift to women..so Im not going to do that again that's for sure! anyways why are men so afraid to approach women? I was in a deli not to long ago and I could tell this man was interested in me, and he had no ring on, and I don't have a ring on, but he wouldn't approach me for nothing so I just left, and this whole internet dating thing, is a joke, all it is people looking for hookups..But I'm not going to give up!

The last one is getting ready to leave the nest..

Well it's that time, that time that I have been dreading, yet was denying would happen. My youngest has graduated and has decided she is going to move out, well she hasn't officially done it, but she is staying gone more and more days away with a friend. So I have had to face some harsh realities, I will soon be alone..and I am not going to lie this has scared me somewhat. Its because now,I have to really realize and face the fact since it has been seven years since my divorce and I have not been in one relationship, hell I haven't even had a second date, that I could quite possibly end up alone. I am in nursing school so this takes up a lot of my time, and I am going to try and start taking some little weekend trips when I can. As for the dating thing, it sucks!

Some Great Scriptures that have helped me.

Hello all I want to share with you some of my favorite scriptures with you. I hope these help you. The ones that pertaing to healing are very special to me and I pray in His mighty name that you will receive your healing or whatever need you may have in your life at this time.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Isaiah 53:4-5 Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we consider him stricken by God, smitten by him and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities , the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his stripes/wounds we are healed. (my very favorite!)

Isaiah 40:31 But those that hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint.

Psalm 41:3 The Lord will sustain him on his sickbed and restore him from his bed of illness.

John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy, I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.

Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you, do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.


I pray that these will be of a big help to anyone in need!! I would love to share scriptures with all of you, and we can do a online Bible study pen pal sorta thing!!

Let me introduce myself...

My name is Annette (Parker) Ansley. I am 42 and a single Christian mother of three. My oldest is in college and lives with her boyfriend Andrew. My son is 18 and is giving me fits or at the very least minor twitches. My youngest daughter is 13 and is developed like a baywatch beauty, so yea I have some real sigle parenting issues to discuss with all you single parents. I am a Christian so parenting and being single in these times are a real challenge.

I grew up a military bratt and I loved it , wouldn't change my childhood for nothing. It afforded me the opportunity to see the world, well alot of it at least. I spent a total of eight years in Germany and graduated from Wasilla High School in Wasilla Alaska...Go Warriors!!! Then at the age of twenty one I became a single parent for the first time...wow what an eye opener!! so that led me to first career choice. I went into the military, secificaly the Navy. I loved BootCamp and if the "real" Navy could have stayed like that Iwould have been a lifer!! but going to camp I guess cannot be a profession unless of course you are a camp counselor or Forest Ranger!

I got married for the first time to a man named Anthony Garcia who took off when I was three months pregnant with our son, my second child. Yes I have learned alot of things from these so called Hard Knocks of life, one of which is that I was not a so called "Victom" I knew getting involved with these men were not the wisest choices.

I then got married to a man named Michael Ansley who was by every deffination a alcoholic when we got married, however he kept it hidden quite well for a while. Michael was abusive but not all the time, he would black my eye and then say it would never happen again, and it wouldn't maybe even for a year or two so when I try to explain to people why I stayed in this marriage for sixteen years all I could tell them was he was verbably abusive all the time, but physically on some of the time and I always kinda thought he just didn't mean to, that he lost control that one time. But then when we was married 15 years he hurt his back and started taking pain pills and things got worse, he started taking speed and all kinds of other drugs and it ended up with me and the kids having to get out one night under police protection and moving to Baxley Georgia, which was not my choice but was the only place where I had family that could help during this time.

I ended up living here in Baxley going on three years now, now its not somewhere I would like to stay for ever, but it is a nice place to raise kids and the realestate is cheap here. I started this blog to have a place to really get to know other Single Parents but specificaly Christian single parents and for us to share our stories, cry together laugh together and help each other as much as possible. If there are any of you that have any prayer concerns please comment me and I will pray for your need as soon as I get them. I look forward to meeting every one!! :)